behold (slaps down aroace)
I personally believe that being straight means you love someone of the opposite gender to that which you identify with, with zero connotations to your masculinity or femininity
TBH being aroace can be… insanely funny in my experience.
Like i have issues with connections due to several disorders (im collecting those like pokemon) so irs always just “am i really aroace or am i just autistic” and like…
I do not find people appealing. At all.
I look at someone “hot” go, “oh he looks kinda neat” and thats it.
Apparently, others get some ideas after that (which is how crushes develop) but i just loose interest quick and go on playing with my silly little game about murdering giant dragons and that one thunderdog that i hate.
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Yeah I can really relate to this I also got diagnosed with autism
my social needs are being properly hugged every once in a while and that’s it, I don’t see what everyone else is after, beyond that
I CAN DO THAT!!
(sometimes)
(no squeezing tho i would actually commit homicide.)
Y’know, in my case, it’s a combination.
I find anyone, regardless of gender, as attractive according to my tastes. I’m a sucker for words, as a poet. My wife? An amazing, gorgeous woman who I love with all of my heart who somehow loves me. Truly, I don’t deserve her.
But I have no real type. (besides the same red flags over and over, because ofc I’m built like that) I just love love, and I love loving. And I think thats the best thing I can do for people.
honestly I’m still kinda figuring out my own gender identity
Like, I go by he/him and feel comfortable using those pronouns, but it also feels like I might be a girl sometimes.
Hell, I literally dressed up as Maria from The Sound of Music when I was little.
I still identify as male, I’ve thought about whether I’m gender-nonconforming or not, but I’m honestly just really confused.
Wot (I’m actually befuddled)
(I’ve gotten befuddled just a few replies in, unfortunately)
YOU HAVE A WIFe???
Gender is always a tricky thing. As a genderfluid, every day feels like a maze, and it’s difficult, but I’m happy with my pronouns today. Also, Sound of Music mentioned!!
If you ever want advice on how to figure some stuff out, my DMs are open. I’m here for you, all of you.
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Well, not WIFE, but we are formally betrothed to each other, and she has been my girlfriend since April. We call each other wife (or husband or “love” depending on my prns, which is another reason why I love her)
so pseudo-common-law marriage?
THAT IS SO COOL i am. So happy for you and hope it all goes well!
Basically, yeah!
I had to ask her mother formally if I can marry her daughter. Why did I happen to have my one be someone from Old World money 
I gotta get a diagnosis for something man, I have something I know that much
I got (a list, prepare yourselves.)
C-PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, autism, and, the peak one, hyperawareness to the point I take meds to make my brain RELAX.
(Yes, I am medicated and recovering. I know you all can too, if you are struggling.)
I probably got one of these idk
they synergize, just like my sailor juggernaut