Tbh as aroace, being queer is an interesting experience to me personally- i have neither romantic nor sexual attraction in any way or manner and it is to me just quite interesting to watch relationships.
I do not exactly understand the feelings behind them- that deep connection people are talking about- and while i can tell when someone is attractive, i do not exactly think “oh i wanna fuck em” but more so “oh they look neat. Anyway”.
This has been a constant throughout my life- i do not desire a relationship either, really, i am more than fine alone- but what does it actually feel like for people that do experience romantic or sexual attraction? How does it feel being alone? Do you want a partner to share your life with or is it more of a “i don’t care really”?
It is quite… alien to me, to be honest, so i’d like answers if possible :>
This is the same thing that I’m somewhat curious about
People sometimes seem to be so desperate to have a partner and it’s strange that it’s considered to be that big of a deal, especially when you have friends and aren’t actually alone.
My current thoughts are:
1: Friends don’t usually live in the same house as you, and usually don’t give physical comfort. This would mean wanting a partner is like wanting to have a friend who treats you like a family member would.
2: People can also be desperate for other things like attention and money, even when they don’t need it. There isn’t anything unique about wanting a partner other than the fact that some people think “why would someone actually want that”
