I mean if you work for months molding your mindset and way of thinking, then youll eventually get you what you want. At least thats how I made it to where I am. Doing things like avoiding romance shows or movies or just suppressing the effects of hormones as much as you can. In other words, I basically try to force myself to never love someone else unless it’s a family member.
I don’t know the nuts and bolts of it because Im no mental health expert but I still try my best to steer clear of anything that has to do with romance, love, crushes, or anything of the sort.
i suppose, but it’s largely not a choice to feel attraction or desire romance. if you feel such urges, desires, etc. but actively choose to avoid/suppress them that isn’t ace or aro, that’s avoidance or denial
sorry if you’re trying to quote anything i say, i tend to change and specify a lot of things upon upload
fair enough, I’ve just grown to dislike romance because the way I see it, it’s just rolling the dice to see if they say yes or no, to see if they abandon you, and to see if they stick with you. If they stick around with you, big win and big whoop. If they break up/say no? Hot damn its gonna hurt.
oof, tbh i’m so used to dropping people and being dropped that it doesn’t affect me to see people not reciprocate romantic interest (perks of stable self-esteem) and/or abandon me outright (god knows i deserve it, i’ve done it enough to others)
i was lucky enough to have it once, but ofc i later became very anxious bc of stuff and i tend to maintain more distance than would be healthy for relationships, as much as i’d like to be in one
Steering away from it will not save you. I had such a mindset too, but I learned the hard way as of recent that there is no choosing. It’ll come careening right at you, and there’s no dodging it. You can’t choose your sexuality.
I’ve never been in a relationship but this quote reminds me of the time one of my brothers literally broke up with his girlfriend after a football game in front of all her friends in a crowd…
