No clue
we are formally sworn- not proposed or getting married. I am literally going to propose and then marry her. A fiance is someone you’ve proposed to.
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when is pilgrammed update
could i have one
I really don’t know where you all get this idea that I’m a therapist or such a sweet person - I really just try to be decent to everyone. It’s not much, and with how I’ve lost my temper on some people, it’s hardly enough to make up for how I must’ve made them feel.
But, thank you for believing in me, everyone.
you’re really the first person to do something like this here, and it sounds like people are fans of others being nice
You all need to drastically raise your standards then- I’m not that nice and being the first doesn’t mean anything if other people don’t do it too.
I want this forum to be more kind, better, and welcoming. That doesn’t make me kind, it makes me a decent person who doesn’t want this community falling down into the pits of dead forums all throughout the internet.
I’m not that good, really. I’m just decent.
Loki, my friend, I am kindly asking you to stop with this. Because it’s just not true.
What makes a good person is an effort beyond the requirement of what society expects out of you. If all you were doing was being reasoned and not exploding in arguments, then yes, you would be only decent. However, people who are only decent do not put serious effort into assisting people they don’t know. They don’t make threads dedicated to giving out advice for random people on the forum. They don’t strive to set a better example for everyone to follow.
I don’t know what you’ve done in your life, so I cannot judge you there, but as far as I’m concerned, here you’re displayed nothing but sound moral conduct. By virtually all standards, you are good, right, and just. Stop setting your view of what it takes to be a good person as being something absolutely unobtainable—I’ve done that before, and I continue to do so, and it accomplishes nothing.
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And sometimes, (depending on the situation) helping people for too long renders you idk the word for this hold on… demoralised?
You’re better for trying to help randoms, as they said.
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I didn’t know your goal for today was to make me start sobbing at my desk like a loser-
Thank you, thank you so much. I have no words, genuinely - thank you.
This doesn’t happen to me. Blatantly does not apply.
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Oof, apologies, I just assumed because I started dying inside after hearing of all the horrible shit my friends go through all the time
I don’t understand people are able to do this and I never will in a /vpos way. I’m not that cool or awesome
Oh, I get that, I mean like - Helping others, I feel at peace seeing other people smile or happy.
Hearing bad stuff? I don’t know, I think its because I’ve experienced a lot of bad that I’m fine.
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I’m glad doing that brings a smile to your face instead of harming others :))
It’s more that I’m starting to get desensitised and it really feels bad
desensitized?
This is an unfortunate side effect of being supportive - sometimes, you’ll be unable to see the good in life, but there is good.
You’re here, isn’t that good enough? You are here, experiencing life, love, feelings. The beauty and horrors of the universe, you are here to exist in it.
And that’s good enough for me.
I typed this through tears from Gamehero’s reply, btw. Actually became a crying mess from that lol
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Most wholesome interaction I’ve seen here so far ngl, if there’s any other in the older topics that would be poggers
Hello, I don’t know how this works so I’ll just reply.
this is good shit, very great life outlook
i want to thank you for making this thread in the first place, the forum is full of arguing (which ive taken part in admittedly, even if i dont take them all to seriously), and its nice to have a thread thats entirely just reassurance and actual sincere thought
especially this part, my outlook on life is that its an accumulation of all your experiences, what defines you is how you react to experiences and how you move on, thats what living is to me
i wanted to add something but gamehero says it better than i wouldve and i was gonna say basically the same thing
i guess i can say that “not exploding in arguments” can be a merit in a sense, i used to have super bad anger issues, talked to people, matured, learned that keeping calm even when someone is exploding on you never hurts and if anything will calm the other person down, it sets a good example, in a sense, and now a lot of the friends ive met from last year and this year would never have known i ever had a short temper even though its still something i want to work on
youre on a forum full of people who argue over very small things, and while being mature and calm relative to this place may not speak to your merit above the average person, its still a step towards making this niche community better
meant to reply to the first post i quoted, accidentally replied to the thread sorrysorry it should still be clear what i mean
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I have severe mental issues - the smallest things, like being touched (platonically) without permission or being called silly nicknames can p*ss me off beyond belief and I tend to attack people when I’m like that. It also seems everyone outside my friend group hates me. I face constant verbal abuse and people doing things they know bothers me because it’s funny - it was brought to my house a few months back by some people in the year below me kicking my door, thank god we dealt with that - but I do get depressed as a result sometimes. People tell me just to ignore it which severely infuriates me. Whenever I even hint at an emotional issue with my parents, they just tell me to stop being dramatic. Sorry for trauma-dumping but yeah.
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