Yup, I’m asking another one of these questions on the fundamentals of being human.
I was thinking about why making a relationship between two fictional characters romantic instead of platonic makes their relationship feel shallower to me, and I realized that I have never yearned for a romantic relationship more than a platonic one.
Anyway, please do your best to explain to me why a romantic relationship is considered to be more appealing than a platonic one.
EDIT: To clarify, I am asking about the appeal of getting into a romantic relationship IRL. Not about the appeal of consuming fiction that depicts romantic relationships.
I know that it’s very likely for me to have that (although since I’m only 19, it might be a bit too early to be sure) but I want to try to understand other people’s perspectives too.
You being uninterested in shipping is not aromanticism
Now, to answer your question unlike the others who act as if this is Quora; Romantic relationships can be appealing for a multitude of reasons, most of which aren’t related to your body at all:
Open for a list of what I could think of
Instincts
Falling in love
it comes in different flavours and strengths by the way
Societal influences.
Being shown and told that it is the tradition and the norm
Elders requesting you to find someone before their passing
Replicating the schematic, and more
Need
Instability, both financial and emotional
Just being needy or something, idk I’m not that kind of person
Liking its aspects
Courting is cool!
Courting is cool!
Courting is cool!
Oh my, I think courting is cool!
I conclude that you are in dire need of reading about love in all of its shape, forms, and colours. To help you, I hereby prescribe you with the reading of three-hundred works of fiction revolving around the theme of romance with my authority as a doctor of the order of all mortal feelings.
And come on, this is a discourse forum for a roblox lego game. Do you really expect the people here to have the slightest of clue?
its mainly the emotional and connection aspects of it but some people just do it on a whim cause they felt like it or something (i dont really get that)
you often see people ship characters who are opposites because more often than not that makes things more interesting and can hit off well as opposed to two characters who are similar to each other
like i think because they can connect better in that sort of way and theres even a saying about how opposites attract each other
By romantic do you mean a loved filled kind of thing or do you mean romantic as in a theme?
i mean if you mean the theme I kinda get you, all that nonsense in relations does sound kind of annoying.
however you did mention platonic relations so I’m guessing you mean a relation with love.
I think it stems from the fact that humans are quite needy, we need a lot of things in our life and we don’t get satisfied with them easily. Sometimes we need attention and comfort too and we can’t really expect that from platonic relations. Sure I’m not saying platonic relations can’t provide that but you can’t expect them to do that kind of stuff. Like you can’t expect them to think of you as their number 1 priority.
With romantic relationships it doesn’t work that way, you and your partner are a duo where you can expect the other person to cover your weaknesses and problems while they can expect you do so too. You get to feel more freedom and be vulnerable with them because you build a trust with them that’s different then platonic relations.
This is something I’ve been wanting to hear more people open up about and relate too because I’m so tired of everything being romanticized. I don’t find these types of things interesting or worthwhile mainly because I value personal freedoms myself but going back to the topic of “fan-ships” it’s annoying as hell. If I’m trying to look through their fandom and see some shit like “Oh gordon freeman and doctor breen kiss then the world implodes” it’s funny but then it gets old and the serious ones are corny as hell. As a person who just doesn’t experience it as I find it being uncomfortable around other people and everything should be platonic the fact it’s one of, if not the most major part of our society makes me just annoyed at seeing it everywhere. I’m basically just a misanthrope when it comes to that stuff. Not that I hate everything just that one aspect of our society that’s WAYYYYYYYYYY too large
i think its not about being “appealing”, but it just pretty much how people wants to be together “more” than just a friend.
because of emotional connection, I mean. i know friends can stay forever too like partner. but it just pretty much humans instinc to fell in-love. even when you’re aromantic, you still can fell-in love
well in the case of romantic relationships u get to have ur “other”. to be in a relationship is basically saying “we are going to dedicate ourselves to one another and foster as deep a connection as we can” whereas other kinds of relationships are much less structured and while they can hold very great sentimental value to people, they dont come with the idea of “this person is my person” and so pursuing only platonic relationships, outside your close family u may never experience anything as deep as having a significant other
would you fall in love for the knight that saved you from the evil big bad dragon that kidnapped you and held you hostage cuz you are some kind of princess?
its kinda about story of how romantic relationship have started, knowing how it started gives you emotional boost for how this romantic relationship is going or how it will go
and yes, i know nothing about this i just speaking how i think it works
